It's Okay to Ask for Help: Knowing When to Seek Support

Harrell Homes
Sep 7
3 min read

The journey of caring for a loved one, whether an elder or an individual with intellectual disabilities, is a marathon, not a sprint. While it's filled with moments of profound joy, it's also a path that can be demanding. Recognizing when to seek help is a sign of strength, not weakness, and it is a vital step in ensuring the well-being of everyone involved.

For Caregivers and Family Members

Your well-being is the foundation of the care you provide. It is crucial to recognize the signs that you may need support.

Feeling Overwhelmed or Burned Out: If daily tasks feel like an insurmountable burden, or if you feel a loss of energy and motivation.
Increased Irritability: Finding yourself easily frustrated or short-tempered.
Neglecting Your Own Needs: Putting off doctor's appointments, hobbies, or social activities you once enjoyed.
Changes in Your Mood: Persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, or hopelessness.
Physical Symptoms: Experiencing frequent headaches, stomach issues, or fatigue that can't be explained by a medical condition.

What to Do: Reaching out is the first step. Talk to a trusted friend or family member, or consider seeking professional therapy. Utilizing respite services is also a powerful way to get a much-needed break without compromising the quality of care your loved one receives.

For Individuals with Intellectual Disabilities or Elders

Changes in a person's behavior, mood, or routine can be a signal that they need help. As a caregiver, pay attention to these signs, as they may not be able to express their feelings verbally.

Behavioral Changes: A new or sudden increase in irritability, aggression, or withdrawn behavior.
Loss of Interest: No longer enjoying favorite hobbies or activities.
Changes in Routine: A noticeable shift in sleep patterns, eating habits, or personal hygiene.
Communication Difficulties: Struggling to express thoughts, wants, or feelings in a way that was previously manageable.
Physical Symptoms: Complaining of physical ailments, even if no medical cause is found.

What to Do: Start by talking with them in a calm, supportive manner. Work with your care team or a medical professional to assess the changes. A therapist or counselor who specializes in working with individuals with diverse needs can provide tools and strategies to help them cope with their feelings.

What Kind of Help Is Available?

Help comes in many forms, and finding the right support is a personal journey.

Professional Counseling: A therapist can provide a safe space to talk and offer coping strategies. Many therapists specialize in working with caregivers or individuals with intellectual disabilities.
Support Groups: Connecting with others who share similar experiences can be incredibly validating and empowering.
Respite Services: Utilizing respite care provides a safe and supportive environment for your loved one while you get a break, ensuring your well-being is a priority.
Community Resources: Local mental health organizations and advocacy groups often offer a wide range of services, from workshops to one-on-one support.

Resources for Support

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness): Provides support, education, and advocacy for people with mental illness and their families. nami.org
The ARC of the United States: A national organization that advocates for individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. They provide resources for families and caregivers. thearc.org
Crisis and Emergency Services: For any immediate crisis or emergency, call 911 or a local crisis hotline.